Abcd89 (original poster member #82960) posted at 1:56 PM on Wednesday, June 18th, 2025
Sisoon - good questions
Do I really want reconcilliation - I’m
No longer sure. I’m certainly no longer as afraid of separation. Something has shifted.
Is he a good candidate? I would have said yes 2 years ago - but I think the depth of my anguish and anger and pain has been too much. I really hated him for a long while. He struggled with that. I trust him around so many aspects of our life.
When I look at him I no longer see him how I did. I’m not sure I ever will. In many ways I feel sorry for him. It’s not ideal.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 4:20 PM on Thursday, June 19th, 2025
Reconciliation can only work if both parties are fully 100% vested in the relationship/marriage and want to see it work. And also if they still love each other.
If not that, there is not much to work with if either party is not all in.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Beeblah ( new member #86279) posted at 11:07 AM on Sunday, June 22nd, 2025
Hello, I could have written this. I'm 3 years out and for the first 18 months this was definitely the case. I thought about her every time we had sex too, which was just awful. Things are better now but I can't seem to stop the thoughts from circling. Just writing in solidarity. I just hope things improve because in every other way we are happily reconciled x
D day June 2022
Got married April 2024
Long road to recovery. We are mostly there with occasional bumps x
Beeblah ( new member #86279) posted at 11:08 AM on Sunday, June 22nd, 2025
Hello, I could have written this. I'm 3 years out and for the first 18 months this was definitely the case. I thought about her every time we had sex too, which was just awful. Things are better now but I can't seem to stop the thoughts from circling. Just writing in solidarity. I just hope things improve because in every other way we are happily reconciled x
D day June 2022
Got married April 2024
Long road to recovery. We are mostly there with occasional bumps x
