D day June 2022
Got married April 2024
Long road to recovery. We are mostly there with occasional bumps x
3+ years on, I still have questions.... Do I ask them or let sleeping dogs lie?
D day was over 3 years ago. We subsequently married (2 years afterwards) and life is amazing. I still struggle from time to time and think about the affair a lot but we both learned from it, changed our lives and are living (mostly) happily ever after. Our relationship is better than before for sure.
I am getting obsessive thoughts though, I want to discuss it all, and ask questions (and possibly throw recriminations if I'm being really honest). I did plenty of that for the first year. Thing is, there is stuff I still don't know. I didn't go down the route of getting every single detail because I couldn't bear the pain and I would have probably physically hurt him.
I have niggling questions. He obviously would prefer we never mention it again due to the shame and guilt he feels and he hates that he hurt me so much.
I don't know what I would achieve by asking. But they aren't going away. Do I ask? Or just hope they recede in time and accept I will ever get full closure on everything?
Any help welcome thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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