Texting again!!!
I just cought my wife texting to another man second time.
We have been married for 22 years now (Me 46, her 43) have 2 kids.
First time it was 10 years ago when I found out she was talking and texting her colleague at work but never admitted anything happened between them which I kinda believe because she is seeking for external validation rather than intimacy etc. We have never fully went over that in the healing way. We just went on.
After that, she stayed at home as a "stay at home mom" and I took the extra joba providing for the family which was working quite well (in the end I guess not).
We really care for eachother and like to spend the time together. Our plan for the "old times" was to travel around and get burried together 
This time (2 months ago) I cought the conversation between her and the guy who is building our second house, exchanging texts about kissing and cuddles.
I was fucking devastated.
This should be the grand finale of our life and the departure towards peacefull waters because I felt exhausted with the work, houses and overall stress in the life.
The big difference between us is the social life. She is very unsocial, doesn't like to hang out with anyone, doesnt have the need for the friends (which she doesn't have BTW) and I for sure do. So when we got together in the 20's I was a young man/boy who just enjoyed life and because of that we had the early confrontations because I did not want to live in my 20's like some retired person and stay at home all the time.
Now I'm completely messed up, we still live in the same house, sleep together, had the histerical bonding period and now I'm in the straight line with only downs period.
I imediately brought the divorce papers, we went in the divorce office but resigned that for a period of 6 months to see if we can do something.
Now we are on the marriage therapies (individual) and next week comes the together one.
We lost 10+ kilos, I feel like I'm the one carrying all the weight of this shit and she is now only waiting for me to bring the veridict.
We thought that we were the best.
Lot of our friends admired our marriage and now we are the biggest shitpile around
5 comments posted: Friday, May 15th, 2026
