Do I tell adult children now.
D day was almost three months ago and I don’t know if we are going to make it. My WH has now apologized many times. But he doesn’t want to go to any more counseling (after two sessions) because it "makes him feel bad." Things are ended with the OW, mostly because I figured out she didn’t know he was married and she dropped him quickly when I told her we had been married for forty-three years. I wasn’t mean, I think she was lied to the whole time too. I have not shared any of this with our two adult sons, even though one shares the household with his family and would be affected if we divorce.
So tonight, things erupted when I asked my WH to limit communication with his old buddy who helped him cheat the entire time. This guy keeps calling and I know he would not mind at all if our marriage tanked. And that led to a blowup about how I can’t let things go. No, it’s true, I can’t sweep two years of cheating under the rug. My WH got really ugly and I left the room. He has PTSD, and once he reaches that stage, there is no communicating with him anyway. So I have to decide what to do, R seems pretty impossible if he won’t put more effort in. I would really like to consult with my son, but I don’t want to destroy his relationship with his father. Please all of you, give me advice.
3 comments posted: Thursday, August 21st, 2025
